This post is for those who've been having a bit of trouble with Unconditionalism and would like to know the Terms. Many people seem to have a good idea of the Conditions under which you can sign yourself up for Unconditionalism and the exclusion clauses you need to read in the small print. According to Social Solicitors, Exclusions apply to Narcissists, Passive-Aggressives, Stalkers, Sociopaths and anyone with a personality disorder.
Any phase in your own life may cause you to have found yourself qualifying for Exclusion. This would mean that you have some Healing to do in order to reach the pinnacle of spiritual development commonly known as Ascension. If you don't "do the work", or feel inclined to change your ways, you're likely to be Excluded for life.
Any phase in your own life may cause you to have found yourself qualifying for Exclusion. This would mean that you have some Healing to do in order to reach the pinnacle of spiritual development commonly known as Ascension. If you don't "do the work", or feel inclined to change your ways, you're likely to be Excluded for life.
Okay, let's have a look at some of the Terms you might have encountered if you've defined yourself as an Empath (therefore permitted rite of passage to Unconditional Love) in confronting your irritating nemesis, the Narcissist. I'm going to paraphrase here a common example of assumption (dangerously) that your common-or-garden Narcissist is male. Before we go into the Glossary of Terms, let's bear in mind that a person presenting as a Narcissist may do so for a number of reasons - possibly wealthy, good-looking, highly successful in his walk of life, a Freemason, an acrobat, or a comedian. He may be all of these things, or any combination, or possibly none of them.
Reasons in reality go much deeper than this, but the roots will likely have produced a trickster of treats (inclined to appear to be doing anything you wish while subversively regulating your every move) who is certifiably perilous to your soul. You, dear Empath, are in love with him anyway. These are some of the terms you may encounter in your dealings with him (taken first-handedly, I might add, just to ascertain I'm qualified here. Not that I was hanging on to every word, just hanging on long enough for my brain to knock up a filing cabinet). Actual meanings are in blue (for those viewing on a computer. If you're looking at your phone, you'll just have to guess what was actually said versus how I now interpret what he was actually saying):
"You again. Looking forward to that."
"Ah, it's you. Which game shall I pick here? Sandpit? Eeek - is that quicksand? Mmmm. Bouncy castle? That could be fun - bet you fall off first. Monopoly? No, that's not fair, you haven't got any money. What about Kiss Chase?"
"If we're still doing this in the summer...."
"We probably won't be doing this for very long."
"I'm not into any deep relationships."
"Woah, this is getting too much. I only wanted to have a bit of fun."
"Too deep for me."
"If I listen to another word you say I might be in danger of falling in love with you."
"Least said, soonest mended."
"Yes, I did that, but over my dead body will I admit to it."
"I don't blame anyone."
"Really, I don't blame anyone. Wouldn't know where to start. No, let's not talk about my childhood."
"Let's leave things as they are."
"I just want to be free to control my own destiny, thank you very much. No hope of controlling you."
"I'm getting back with my ex-wife."
"I've found someone else who's a whole lot easier to handle than you are."
Reasons in reality go much deeper than this, but the roots will likely have produced a trickster of treats (inclined to appear to be doing anything you wish while subversively regulating your every move) who is certifiably perilous to your soul. You, dear Empath, are in love with him anyway. These are some of the terms you may encounter in your dealings with him (taken first-handedly, I might add, just to ascertain I'm qualified here. Not that I was hanging on to every word, just hanging on long enough for my brain to knock up a filing cabinet). Actual meanings are in blue (for those viewing on a computer. If you're looking at your phone, you'll just have to guess what was actually said versus how I now interpret what he was actually saying):
"You again. Looking forward to that."
"Ah, it's you. Which game shall I pick here? Sandpit? Eeek - is that quicksand? Mmmm. Bouncy castle? That could be fun - bet you fall off first. Monopoly? No, that's not fair, you haven't got any money. What about Kiss Chase?"
"If we're still doing this in the summer...."
"We probably won't be doing this for very long."
"I'm not into any deep relationships."
"Woah, this is getting too much. I only wanted to have a bit of fun."
"Too deep for me."
"If I listen to another word you say I might be in danger of falling in love with you."
"Least said, soonest mended."
"Yes, I did that, but over my dead body will I admit to it."
"I don't blame anyone."
"Really, I don't blame anyone. Wouldn't know where to start. No, let's not talk about my childhood."
"Let's leave things as they are."
"I just want to be free to control my own destiny, thank you very much. No hope of controlling you."
"I'm getting back with my ex-wife."
"I've found someone else who's a whole lot easier to handle than you are."
Having established your own Glossary (which may of course differ somewhat from mine, but it's a fun exercise anyway), you can fast-forward to your own point of progress. While you're at it, don't forget to take account of Mirror Syndrome in your critical analysis. This is where the going gets a little heavy, for you have to be able to determine the instances when you've acted like a Narc yourself. I mean, the times when you just got so carried away trying to stay upright that you walked all over him. And when you said nothing because you were speechless, but gave an air of consternation which made him feel he was doing something wrong. Don't forget the times when you might have said things that hurt his feelings, and caused him to get defensive. Before you get too involved, remember he was right on one count at least. There really is nobody to blame. We find it, when we look for blame.
Well, now you might be wondering if you're the Narcissist after all. Is it fair to say that most practiced Narcs are able to self-identify? Because in truth it really doesn't matter to you anyway, at least not on the surface, and on the surface is where you're skating that ice you've been trying hard not to melt for a very long time. As long as everything else is under control no-one will know what's really inside you. Only now, you've found yourself caught up with an Empath, who looks just like a Narcissist and in your company probably is, so you're better off apart in any case. And anyway, you know you're really an Empath too, deep down. So what's the problem? Surely this should be easy......
Well, now you might be wondering if you're the Narcissist after all. Is it fair to say that most practiced Narcs are able to self-identify? Because in truth it really doesn't matter to you anyway, at least not on the surface, and on the surface is where you're skating that ice you've been trying hard not to melt for a very long time. As long as everything else is under control no-one will know what's really inside you. Only now, you've found yourself caught up with an Empath, who looks just like a Narcissist and in your company probably is, so you're better off apart in any case. And anyway, you know you're really an Empath too, deep down. So what's the problem? Surely this should be easy......
We've reached the bottom line, at least for now. Which is - anyone can qualify for Unconditional Love, because Unconditionalism doesn't have any conditions attached to it. Truth be told, you might never look into each other's eyes again, for you may never see eye to eye, at least not in this lifetime. But you can still Love, and find ways that transcend this 3D version of reality with its constraints, constants and tedious continuums. Out there in the multi-dimensional framework of the Multiverse, you can have a ball. Think what you like, do what you want, speak as you please, only please do all these things because finding a portal to Unconditionalism is a very valuable thing. However you want to classify yourself (and to be honest I thoroughly recommend not bothering to classify yourself at all), you have a right to protect, maintain, and vigorously defend your connection to Source, which is where Love energy comes from. We do know that bit, even if we wrinkle our noses a little at that kind of stuff. Stay true to Source, is all I can say. Stay away from situations that hurt, for you know what pain feels like and every inner child has to learn about hot surfaces. There are no guarantees, no promises that won't be broken, no sure-fire pathway to that magical land of Union. But there is Love, and its free for everyone.
Yes, that's right. It's free. Time enough for counting when the dealing's done.
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